I remember going to the polls with my Grandfather as a kid. We’d get in the car, drive down to Halifax Elementary School, and wait in line. They usually were never very long; Halifax is a town of about 8,000, and not enough people get out and actually do vote. There was only one polling place too — so if you didn’t know what precinct you were in, well, you just picked a precinct and if you were wrong one you got in the other line. Which, wasn’t a big deal, because… well I just said why.
(Later on while I was in college, I’d end up working at Town Hall in Halifax. Marcia Cole, the Town Clerk would always tell me about how she couldn’t believe I was voting, because she remembered me as a little kid. But, this story isn’t about that.)
Anyways, Gramps would fill in the bubbles, put his ballot in that privacy sleeve, and i’d get to put it into the machine. I’d get a lollipop or something, and we’d walk out of the gym and go back home.
I’ll never forget when my curiosity got the better of me, and I asked:
Me: “Who did you vote for, Gramps?”
Gramps: “Well… I don’t tell people who I vote for.”
Me: “Why not”
Gramps: “Because it’s none of their business. And when you grow up and get to vote, you don’t have to tell anyone who you voted for. That’s the best thing about voting.”
I felt dissatisfied, but I don’t remember asking anything else. I imagine he probably followed up with something like “I know it’s hard to understand now, and I know you hate hearing that, but it’ll make sense later in life.” At least, that seems like something gramps would say.
That always stuck with me. I don’t imagine it’ll ever unstick, unless maybe I get Alzheimer’s. Here’s hoping I don’t.
It’s frustrating to me when people ask “Who did you vote for” — generally, I explain to them how I feel about disclosing. Nothing is as agitating as someone following that with “Oh, well you must have voted for <other candidate> if you’re not telling me!” This happened to me in the presidential election, and today I wanted to clock someone for the way they handled it at a lunch discussion.
Your vote is your vote. Disclose if you choose, but in my eyes it’s rude to ask someone else to do so.